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作者：mermaidonearth 在 海归酒吧 发贴, 来自【海归网】 http://www.haiguinet.com
这位朋友说得很不错，而且相信大家都予以赞同。 我最初写到那篇帖子的时候，只是从身边看到的现象而提出来的几个误区。如果每个人都能够像“幽忧”所说的这样，那还会有这么多女孩子会“上当”吗？
well, it's right..."dating" first, "relationship" second... 在很多中国女孩的思维里，一旦有了sex, 她们就会天真的认为彼此在“恋爱”了。她们认为西方文化的开放态度，而放松对自我的约束，轻率的将自己扔向那些白人。
说到“WHITE PUNKS”， 其实也只是跟朋友开玩笑的一种说法。当有人问到为什么不约会欧美人，我会说到，那些都是“WHITE PUNKS”。只是想说明一点：请MM们不要把这些欧美的男人高估了，这样只是贬低自我的价值。
gold diggers, 不能否认，也不能怪什么。中国这么多人，在大城市里，一个不只是“竞争”的社会里。有女孩子通过捷径方式想获得“幸福”那也无可厚非的。我想说明一点：当你花尽心思在搞定男人身上，还是多用点精力怎么样搞定自我吧！
另外就是关于SELF RESPECT的问题上：在中国，不是说你尊重自己，别人就会尊重你！这个我是绝对有发言权的。不过事实也是，你尊重自我的表现到底能够坚持到多久，那别人尊重你的表现才会在很长时间后体现出来。 -- 你的自尊表现，要想得到别人的承认和肯定，往往需要很长时间的。
我认识的一个美国人，他是（一个知名公司）外派到中国的总监，如果算等级来讲，应该不算是PUNK类的了。他说过他的朋友们都在中国很享受这样的生活，而在选择女孩子的问题上，如果在美国是（1），在中国至少就是（3~4）。而那些由1，在中国可能会是8，10，或者好几打的...那些往往就是所谓的white punks.........
作者：幽忧 在 海归酒吧 发贴, 来自【海归网】 https://www.haiguinet.com
When people were tumbled by a rock, do you think shall they blame the rock or shall they blame themselves for careless?
It really doesn't matter whether the guy is white puck, whitle elite or chinese puck, chinese elite, the really matter is if you have self-respect. If you don't, you really shouldn't blame others treated you without much respect or take advantage of you. Do you think white elites or chinese elites will respect you more than pucks? They probably won't take advantage of you only because elites usually have more respect for themselves! So intead of pursuading these PLMM to not date with white pucks, why not pursuading them to have more self-respect? You might want to ask me how do I come up with the thought of disrespect, well, let's discuss further more of your 3 misunderstanding:
1. 误区一：因为“文化”，西方的人谈恋爱都是需要先经历“约会”，然后才进入“恋爱”。他们同时约会两个甚至几个女孩，都是平常的事情！他们需要时间增彼此的了解，这样才能清楚是否适合对方。
因此，有些女孩子就自然而然接受这样的一个“规则”！当你知道你所约会的那个人还有其它约会对象，也是希望通过跟你的“约会对象”多接触，从而从“约会”状态进入“恋爱”关系。－－所以，当你发觉‘你们两个不适合’的时候，往往就是他又进入另一个轮回游戏的证明了。
You are right, in western culture, usually DATE first, then next step is exclusive relationship. But DATE AROUND not means SLEEP AROUND. Since you know you and the guy are only in the DATE stage but you still offer the sex, what/who shall you complaint about? On the other hand, if you do follow the "规则", just DATE but not SLEEP, what's wrong to have some free dinners in a fancy restaurant with pleasant conversation? Actually i think it is almost necessary for girls too date 2-3 guys at the beginning before the exclusive relationship, so you would know better who is the one excatly you want to be with. The "规则" works for both side, guys and girls. Again, date is just date, once you two decide to have sex, then it comes to next step. So if a girl respect herself enough, she really should follow the "规则", which also make the guy/guys respect her more.
2. 误区二：西方的男人比中国人有钱！比中国男人浪漫。找个欧美的老公，就可以拿绿卡。
一般西方的人都习惯透支性消费，他们不会有积蓄的习惯。 “享受人生，活好今天”就是他们生存的口号！所以，那些ＰＬＭＭ想着嫁个老外过上舒适生活的念头，劝你们及早打消！就算经过多轮回的“约会竞争”，你最终拿得绿卡；你终有一天会发觉，原来你跟他结婚，是一起来“还债”的。
当然“浪漫”很有可能是很多ＰＬＭＭ进入圈套的最大原因了，不过这些浪漫的感觉，也使得这些白种混混有更便捷获得女人的优势了。
Well, this one is alomost no brain. Do you think if a girl has a gold-digger plan in head, and the guy who she is dating won't find out? i know there are some dump guys out there, but most of them are smarter than you, not only they won't respect a gold-digger, they will also enjoy the free ride without feeling any guilty.
误区三：西方人没有什么等级观念！ 西方男人喜欢独立的女人。
哪里都有等级划分的，虽然你不想去承认。只是这个级别的标准是多样化的，内容也越来越复杂了而已。你的整个ＰＡＣＫＡＧＥ（学识，家境，修养，外貌等等）会决定你所能进入的圈子等级。而一般来到中国的白种男人，大都在本国生存在二、三流社会的阶层；就算那些素质极高的欧美男人，除了被外派到中国的，就是来中国开公司创业的。
相信一点：好看的脑子不好使，脑子好用的一般都不好看，又好看又有脑的男人，也不会轮到你来挑的。而那些被中国ＰＬＭＭ认为的“帅哥”，在欧美的街头通常是扔进去都找不出来的那种。
因为西方男人喜欢独立女人，所以你每次约会自己打车到约会的地点，ＰＡＲＴＹ后又独自打车回家，而对他不送你回家的行为表示１００％的理解！你们出去玩的时候，还时不时为表现自己的独立，为对方买单！－－醒醒吧，ＰＬＭＭ们，谁会拒绝到手的便利？
Yes, "门当户对" is applied for any culture. Aagain, doesn't matter the guy is white puck, white elite or chinese puck, chinese elite, if yourself couldn't offer a quality package, the chance for you to win a quality package is very slight.
If you are respected yourself enough and independ, why should you complaint about paying your own taxi to home and paying for the dinner once a while? Do you think white elites or chinese elites will more appreciate for your dependent and nagging? One thing you are right, who would turn down a free ride if you are insisting offer?
Nowaday, the 2 biggest problems for many chinese gilrs are:
1. They don't understand if they don't respect themsevles, they can't expect others/men respect them.
2. i don't know it is because of our education system or the society environment, many chinese girls even those who are already in the early of 30, they are just too naive too simple(Another word-stupid). They don't know how to protect themselves and how to make men respect them. Further more, in most cases they don't even understand by just offering sex will never win a enjoyable relationship which they are looking for but a shame and broken heart.
So instead of blaming on men-pucks or elites and warn these PLMMs, i think we really should do is teaching these PLMMs to respect themselves more!
作者：mermaidonearth 在 海归酒吧 发贴, 来自【海归网】 http://www.haiguinet.com
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